Mother’s Day can bring sadness, grief, and loneliness for those who have lost their mothers. Whether it’s your first Mother’s day without mom, or it’s been years, it’s can be difficult to know how to spend the day. If you’re struggling with grief, you’re not alone. There are ways to cope with your emotions and honour your mother’s memory in a way that feels right for you.
How to deal with grief on Mother’s Day
Expect a range of emotions
It’s okay to feel a mix of sadness, anger, or numbness as Mother’s Day approaches. For some, it can be challenging to find the desire to celebrate, and it’s normal to feel this way. If you are struggling to cope with these emotions, professional help from a counsellor can offer support through your journey with grief. You don’t have to go through this alone, and seeking help is a courageous step forward.
Take care of yourself throughout the day
It’s crucial to be gentle with yourself during this time and not to force yourself to feel any particular emotion. It can be incredibly challenging to be around others who are happy and celebrating when you’re not in the mood, particularly when you have responsibilities demanding your attention. Keep these tips in mind as you go about your day:
- Take time for yourself: If you need time alone, that’s okay. Spend that time giving back to yourself with a relaxing activity.
- Be prepared to say no: Don’t feel guilty for saying no to things that make you uncomfortable or trigger bad memories. Make yourself the number one priority during this difficult time.
- Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness practices like meditation or journaling can be incredibly helpful in processing emotions. For example, if things were left unsaid between you and your mom before she passed away, try writing them down as a healing exercise.
- Do what feels right: Grief looks different to everyone. Take your power back by defining your relationship with your mom in the way that feels right for you, and know it’s okay to grieve in your own way.
Make a plan
For those who have lost their mom, Mother’s Day is a day of remembrance. But it can be difficult to know what to do on this day if you lost your mom. If you’re not feeling up to spending time with family or friends, there are other ways to celebrate and honour your mother’s memory. You could do something she loved to do, like cooking her favourite meal or watching her favourite movie. Another idea is to donate to a charity in her honour, or create a memory box filled with her favourite photos, mementos, and keepsakes. Whatever you choose, remember there’s no right or wrong way to grieve and celebrate.
Connect with others
You don’t have to go through it alone. Reach out to family and friends for emotional support, or seek professional help if necessary. Talking to someone about your feelings can be incredibly cathartic. If you don’t know who to talk to, consider joining a support group or online community specifically for those who have lost a loved one. Connecting with others who understand what you’re going through can be a great source of comfort and healing.
Mother’s day for those who have lost their mom
It’s natural to miss mom on Mother’s Day as the holiday can be a reminder of their absence. Whether you choose to spend the day with loved ones or take some time for yourself, know that you’re not alone in your grief. And while there’s no right or wrong way to celebrate your mother’s memory on this day. By sharing these tips we hope to have made this day a little easier for you. Remember, healing takes time. Be kind and patient with yourself as you navigate this difficult journey. Feeling like you need support? A Wellin5 counsellor is available. Connect with a counsellor today.